The power of planning
Calm down already! Five survival tips for the modern bride
Wedding planning has the power to transform the nicest of girls into a certifiable form of psycho. But there’s no need to lose yourself to the bridal beast. Here are a few lessons I learned from my own recent experience.
1) Hire a wedding planner.
Too expensive? Our wedding planner virtually paid for herself. She had more than 900 weddings under her belt — to my 0. Plus, she knew every vendor, every flower, every idea, every song. We got the “Angela discount” almost everywhere, and she went through every line item to catch discrepancies. In the end, she not only smoothed every part of the process, she saved us major coin.
2)Write nice thank you notes.
People want to give you things, and they want to know that those things arrived safely in your care. Yes, thank you notes are old fashioned and time consuming, but they’re also essential. Don’t pout, put ‘em off, or half-ass them. Just open a bottle of wine and write. It’s a few minutes and a postage stamp in exchange for a lasting good impression.
3) Find yourself in the details.
The nicest compliment I received after the wedding was that it was so “us.” We used Blue Bell containers to hold flowers. Part of the dinner was a macaroni-and-cheese bar. Our centerpieces were studded with asparagus and cauliflower. Do these things work for everyone? No, but they were perfect for us. Find a few things that are uniquely you, and figure out how to incorporate them.
4) Make sure your bathrooms are well marked.
Picture it: A 1920’s house complete with balcony and ballroom. Humble, picturesque, very Audrey Hepburn… The perfect location for a wedding. But what we didn’t realize was that stately 1920’s homes don’t have well-marked water closets. Which, I suppose, is why one of our guests peed on the floor in the ladies dressing room. Uh-huh.
5) Calm the eff down. Seriously.
People do want to hear about your wedding, but they don’t want to know every petal, pillow, and place setting. We often lose sight of the fact that the real excitement is not the wedding, but rather the marriage. Bring things into perspective, and it’s easy to laugh off mishaps like #4 above. Everything will work out fine, and if you trip down the aisle? At least you’ll be able to relive your big day when it goes viral on YouTube.