When you hit a home run, you don’t head straight to home plate. You round the bases.
Her tips this Valentine's Day? Get things cooking early and keep building throughout the day, starting out at first and second base. Linger with your hugs and kisses before rushing out the door. Send sweet texts throughout the day or, dare we say, send a photo at lunchtime.
Leave sexy notes around the house for your partner to find. Incorporate various smells and textures into your routine and get your senses going on high. You can do this by using fresh ingredients in the kitchen while cooking dinner and playing music you both enjoy in the background. By the time you are ready for bed, it will be full steam ahead.
Experiment with touch and see how long you can go hands-free. Who knew that phrase could be fun outside the office?
When it's time to make the magic happen, stick with our theme and take it slow. Your body is covered with erogenous zones, so don’t skip straight to the obvious. Think Monica in that infamous scene in Friends.
Discover other parts of each other's bodies and ask for feedback. Get to know one another's preferences if you're in a new relationship, and if you've been together awhile remember that they change over time; this is one exercise that never gets old.
Experiment with touch. Hands are important, but how about a feather, a rose petal, a leather belt (gently, y'all) or your mouth. See how long you can go hands-free. Who knew that phrase could be fun outside the office?
Play with the senses by depriving one another of one sense and enhancing the others. Cover your partner’s eyes with a blindfold, and then pull out the flowers and candy. Then ask your partner to describe what he/she smells, tastes and feels.
And don't forget about “afterplay.” A flood of hormones are released during an orgasm, so you feel more emotionally connected to your partner in post-coital bliss. This is a great time to tell your partner how much they mean to you. As California-based sex therapist Stephanie Buehler says, “Sometimes it isn’t a physical technique, but an emotional connection that creates the most intense sexual experiences.”
Says deAyala, “Most of all, remember that any day is worthy of such love and attention to your partner. You are together for a reason, and every day is cause for celebration.”