The madness that is March has infected the best of us — even your favorite advice columnist. If I apologized for my somewhat lengthy hiatus from dishing out my trademark sage words, then I'd have to admit to doing something wrong.

Let's just pretend nothing happened. Avoiding reality is the theme of this week's question anyway.

Dear Fayza,

My husband and I have a friend who is expected to marry in April. Things are not going well between them. They moved in together one or two years ago, and he's steadily gotten complacent, lazy and is not doing anything to help, even though he arrives home from work two hours before she does each day.

She cries about it almost daily, and is stressed as heck (and I don't mean wedding-planning-stressed). However, in public, she puts on the face that everything is perfect.

We don't want to burst her bubble, as it is many woman's dream to be married. But I think she is caught up in getting married, and not thinking of the long-term issues that ignoring this now will bring.

What we can do as friends? What do you think she should do?

- Biting My Tongue

Dear Biting,

I hope you like the taste of that bit in your mouth, because I'm going to recommend keeping it secured in place.

You say your friend complains all the time about her lifelong-mate-to-be, right? And you listen, as any good friend would. And you're concerned, as anyone who cares about her would be. You want to help. You want to make her life better. You want to solve her problems. You're a good friend, girl. There's no disputing that.

But here's where it gets a bit murky. Has she asked for your advice on how to handle this? Has she ever said, "Should I go through with this marriage?" Has she expressed an interest in actually fixing what you think is broken in her life?

Because if she hasn't done any of these things, then your role as a superhero ends at the line she's drawing by not seeking direction from you.

Look, you're happily wedded, so you understand — relationships are complicated, man. There's often a lot more to them than meets the casual observer's eye.

And no one quite understands the intricacies of any particular relationship as acutely as the two parties that are in it. You're only hearing your friend's rendition of the events, and I'm sure you know there are three sides to every story — hers, his, and the truth. You've got one-third, at best. Yet you're attempting to assess an entire situation without knowing the half of it.

As difficult as it might be, I must, in good conscience, advise you to stand down. Don't confuse mere venting with a cry for help. Unless he's abusing her physically or mentally, you'd do best to keep your unsolicited advice to yourself.

You might be right — your friend may want the fairytale, at all costs. She might be wildly careening toward the fantasy of a storybook wedding faster than she wants to confront the sobering consequences of marrying the wrong man. And you may be experiencing the clairvoyance of a bystander at the scene of a car crash that hasn't yet happened — but it will.

Rest assured, a woman's intuition never lies. But sometimes, she consciously chooses to ignore it.

It's clear that, right now, your friend doesn't want her bubble burst. Not yet, at least, and not by you. If you take the pin and prick her little world without her asking it of you, she may very well resent you for it. She may decide that moving forward with the very mistake you're trying to prevent her from making is the best way to show you (and perhaps others) that you're wrong.

Pushing her toward the problem — and perhaps losing the friendship altogether — is the opposite of your intentions.

We can all agree that her complaints are setting the stage for a colossal mistake of matrimony — from an outsider's point of view. We can all see that as clear as day.

But until she sees it just as clearly, your advice is worthless currency to her. You'll either need to commit to supporting her — come hell or high water (since both are pretty much guaranteed) — or get out of the kitchen if you can't take the heat.

You're not obligated to do either, and you've certainly not been tasked to come up with a solution. Your only duty is to be the kind of friend she's asking for. If you can handle it.

If you're looking for me to validate you, well, I can't promise that. But I can give you solicited advice that may or may not burst your bubble — but it'll be for the best.

Send your questions in to advice@culturemap.com, post them in the messages on this story, hit me up on Twitter, or message me on Facebook. I care about you. I want to help you. I'm a good friend like that.